Monday, April 27, 2009

SOLVING THE UNSOLVABLE, I CANT SOLVE THAT PHRASE

We are warned about the shidduch crisis, and all it creates, everyday; whether it be from the yated or mishpachah, the Jewish press, or even our very own Frum Single Female. How many people think they have an answer to it? raise you hands (or press shift on your keyboard 5 times). Well if you are raising your hand or pressed shift 5 times, you made a big mistake (raising your hand is stupid because no one can see through your computer screen, and pressing you shift key that many times will show a sign on your monitor asking you if you want sticky keys).

Reason number one why you made a mistake: The shidduch crisis is based on people. People are human if you didn't know, and humans make mistakes. People make mistakes thinking that, someone who thinks slightly different then them is completely out of the question, and not even worth checking out to see if its a potential marriage. Of course this, as any other human perspective, evolved, it grew from the fact that shadchanim exist. Shadchanim are simply people who tried to fit everyone in a box, if you don't fit into the box you are outside the box, and not worthy enough to be set up with people on the inside of it, simple enough. But the idea expanded, not only did they just make a box, they made it really hard to get into, the slightest of "deficiencies" is going to get you kicked out; if you were once a yeshivah rebel, or you wear blue shirts, or maybe you work, or you have plastic at the shabbos table, if you're a girl you may be to smart, whatever the case maybe your out. Then the idea grew so big it became a crisis within itself, like an epidemic that started out as a flu vaccination, it wasn't originally meant to harm, now everyone is judging who's in this box and in one of three other boxes with every glance, its not just shadchanim. How do you stop an evolving crisis that cant be killed from its source a.k.a. the shadchan, I don't know.

Answer number 2 why you made a mistake: who wants sticky keys anyway? I like mine nice and clean. You shouldnt have pressed shift 5 times just because I said so, I wouldnt have known if you did either way, but if you really think you do have an answer you can leave a comment with your idea.

So the answer is, SOLVING THE UNSOLVABLE is not possible, its to complicated and is therefore unsolvable, because if it were to be solved it wouldnt be unsolvable.

6 people gave their 2 cents:

Altie said...

Completly confusable. I pressed shift 5 times, i gave in to the temptation. and guess what? u were right.
I agree that the problem can not be solved, by u or mr or anyone, because its not our problem, or a 'problem', per se. It's all up to G-d.
now, do u think that years and years ago something like this was a problem? no, i think they told yentel that she was marrying yankel, and poof! all the towns people came to the wedding, and the couple lived happily (or not so) ever after. and that was all there was to it.
so, why is there a 'shidduch crisis' today? there really isn't. if you don't see something as a problem, then there isn't one. its all the perspective of it.
yes, there are a lot of young singles out there who need to get married, and have not yet found their zivug. but look at it like this: its all up to g-d. and when its the right time, and the right person, it'll happen. until then, live life, and dont worry so much. cuz its not your problem. dump it all on G-d.

Mikeinmidwood said...

Altie

True g-d runs it all, but people have to do their part, and being a label maker is not what you are supposed to be doing.

Moshe said...

If you look at it from a Natural Selection point of view, it's a good thing. Stupid people won't get married and wont produce more stupid people.

Mikeinmidwood said...

Moshe

Just the opposite the stupid will get married because all the smart ones have been influenced by this weird system, unless you meant the stupid to be the ones influened.

Moshe said...

The stupid are the ones who buy into the system and the ones who let their mommy pick out their women for them.

Mikeinmidwood said...

Moshe

I see.